Bridezilla\ bride-zil-a n 1 Horrific, bulging-eyed bride prone to screaming spells and spontaneous fits of hysterical rage. Bridezillas are known to drop blows over seating charts, get bug-eyed at the mere mention of carnations and view hurling champagne at their wedding planners as a form of hazing.
You Might Be A Bridezilla If……..
- You feel the wedding is all about you.
- You feel entitled to special treatment from everyone because you are getting married.
- You obsess about every detail of the wedding and have trouble making decisions.
- You change your mind and second guess every decision you’ve made.
- You talk about your wedding 24/7?
- You spend hours online chatting and comparing notes with other brides.
- Your friends avoid you because “it’s all about you”.
- Your fiancé is sick of hearing about the wedding.
- You are focusing on the wedding instead of the marriage.
- You are having temper tantrums and anxiety attacks in the presence of anyone and everyone.
- You expect perfectionism in every aspect of your wedding.
- You expect a huge shower, a bachelorette party, etc.
- You are in the “gimme, gimme, I want good gifts” mode.
- You spend hours looking at your online wedding registry to see what has been purchased.
- You lash out at your mother, fiancé, bridesmaids, friends, and wedding planner whenever and wherever it strikes you.
- You are bossing around the wedding party, the staff at the bridal salon, the wedding planner, the florist, the caterer, etc.
- You demand to have everything your own way.
- You are dictating hair styles, mani and pedi’s and the same makeup for your bridesmaids.
- You are complaining about your bridesmaids to anyone who will listen.
- A member of the wedding party has stepped down due to your behavior.
- You are telling your fiancé that all the groomsmen must have a fresh shave and a haircut.
- You insist that your wedding has to be better than your cousin’s, a friend’s etc.
- Your fiancé is making comments, as well as taking criticism about your behavior.
- You are arguing with everyone from your fiancé to your parents to your bridesmaids.
- Rather than find solutions to a problem, you throw a temper tantrum so that everyone knows you mean business.
If most of these statements sound like you, you may want to take some time to reevaluate this wedding and marriage. Make sure you are truly in love with your fiancé and not just in love with the idea of getting married. You may need to get a grip and relax. Remember that it’s a wedding and it’s about the two of you. Everything else is just a party.
Some wedding anxiety is normal. When anxiety slips up on you, take a step back and relax with your fiancé. You may even need to take a few days off from wedding planning. Take a deep breath and know that it will all work out fine. We all know that nothing is perfect and no one will have a clue if something goes wrong.
You may have to take some time out for a major attitude adjustment and make amends to everyone you’ve alienated during the planning process. Ask yourself the question, “Do I really want to get married?”. You need to find out what is making you so unhappy and work on what’s really bothering you. When you do this, everything else will fall into place.
I don’t think anyone wants to be Bridezilla and I know for a fact that no one wants to be around a Bridezilla. The groom’s friends are liable to tell him just what they think he’s getting himself into and he should run while he can!
Don’t let “Bridezilla” mode slip up on you. Take a deep breath and think about your priorities.
Normal Bride Behavior
It is normal to be excited and focused on the wedding plans and your upcoming marriage. Most brides have dreams of wedding disasters like having the wrong dress on or walking down the aisle completely naked or that no one shows up for the wedding at all.
Be sure and include your friends and family in all the fun and planning of the wedding, but remember that even though they are a part of your wedding…..it is not their primary focus. It is also very normal to think about your wedding 24/7….just don’t talk about it continuously.
You may still have moments where you are second guessing your decisions, but remember that a bad decision is better than not making any decision at all. It’s also okay to compare notes online with other brides and to check your online registry. Just remember that if it becomes an obsession, that could mean a problem.
Realize that your wedding ceremony is about you and your husband as you start a new life together……but the reception is just a big party! It’s normal to want things to be perfect, but just remember that nothing is perfect.
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