Here’s To You!

Need to speak at a wedding reception?  Don’t quite know what to do?  Try these ideas:


  • Welcome the bride and groom as a couple.
  • Welcome the guests, i.e. the family members, the best man, the maid of honor and the bridesmaids, the friends and the colleagues of both the bride and groom.
  • Congratulate the bride and groom, their family, and friends.
  • If you are the best man or the emcee, introduce all speakers.


  • Compliment the bride with, you are looking beautiful, great or something like that. And mean it!
  • Compliment the ones who made her dress.  Her mom, sisters, aunts.
  • If you are not the best man, thank the best man for his efforts.
  • Briefly describe your relationship to the bride and groom.
  • Why are you invited to speak at their wedding?
  • Why do you want to speak?
  • How did you meet them? Can you come up with a funny story?
  • Tell them what they mean to you personally in your heart and mind.
  • Mention special people in the lives of the couple.
  • Refer to the joys of the meal in case you are an after dinner speaker.



  • What are milestones in the lives of the bride and the groom?
  • In what key events did you play a part?
  • What happened in history the day they were born?
  • What in history happened at this wedding day? Stay with nice things…


  • Look for funny speech topics about the groom or bride.
  • Tell a happy story of the couple.
  • Visualize how they met for the first time.
  • Narrate how they were introduced to the parents.
  • Mention and describe their common activities.
  • Describe their different characters, be nice and funny!


  • Express how happy everyone is.
  • Wish the couple all the best.
  • Thank the guests for attending.
  • A joke or quotation can serve as good closing statement.
  • End your wedding speech with a REAL toast!

Other Tips: Speaking Order

Is there a toastmaster or a master of ceremonies? Then let him or her decide who is speaking at what time. The speaking order below is often used at weddings.

  1. The father of the bride. He ends with a toast to the bride and groom.
  2. The groom. He replies to the father of the bride and ends with a toast to the bridesmaids.
  3. The best man. He replies on behalf of the maid of honor and bridesmaids and ends with a toast to the parents of the bride and groom.
  4. The maid of honor.
  5. The father of the groom.
  6. Other people, like the mother of the bride also can speak at weddings. But remember, the bride and groom decide!

Writing & Delivery Tips

  • Use brief notes on index cards.
  • Keep it short, 4 of 5 minutes.
  • Rehearse your wedding talk in front of someone else and adapt the helpful recommendations and feedback you receive.
  • Write down the words Break or Pause to the left of your notes, to speak in a normal pace.
  • Make eye contact with the bride and groom while you are speaking. Look around to the other guests. And talk with a smile!

Congratulations and good luck!

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