There are several ways of doing memorial candles at your wedding ceremony. These are just a few:
1) Place a large pillar candle at the entrance to your ceremony, on a table with the Guest Book. Light the candle before the guests arrive, and have a small card in front of it that reads “In Memory of (Name)”. At the beginning of your ceremony, the officiant can pause and give an explanation of the “Memorial” candle, if you desire.
The Minister shall say:
(Name) may not be physically here with us today, but they are looking down on us and are here in spirit to bless this union. Bride and Groom have lit a candle at the entrance in memory of (Name).”
Another way is to have one or more tall large pillar candles, in a color other than white, on the altar or table on either side of the Unity Candle. With special music playing in the background, the Bride and Groom would walk to each candle and light the candle. You could use small tapers and the votive candle. Then the bride and groom would walk back to their positions in front of the Officiant. While the music is playing and you are lighting the candles, the officiant would say: (Name) may not be physically here with us today, but they are looking down on us and are here in spirit to bless this union. Bride and Groom will light a candle in memory of (Name).”
You may also place a Poem or Reading dedicated to the “absent” person in your Wedding Program. In Memory of (Name).
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